Archive for the ‘Your Child Online’ Category

Online Predators, Cyberbullying, and Sexting: Creative Strategies to Keep Your Child Safe Online.

August 5th, 2011

Are your worried about your child’s exposure to violence and age inappropriate media? Are you concerned that they may be exposed to images and information they are not ready to handle? Are you concerned about your child being cyberbullied or joining others and using technology to bully their peers? Are you scared that an online predator may be interacting with your child? You are not alone.

  • Three out of four children (77 %) ages three to seventeen used the Internet at home. -Child Trends Data Bank
  • Thirty-four percent (34%) had an unwanted exposure to sexual material — pictures of naked people or people having sex.- Crimes Against Children Research Center
  • 75% of children are willing to share personal information online about themselves and their family in exchange for goods and services.- eMarketer
  • One in seven youth online (10 to 17-years-old) received a sexual solicitation or approach over the Internet. -National Center for Missing & Exploited Children
  • Only approximately 27% of children who encountered a sexual approach or solicitation told a parent or adult. – Crimes Against Children Research Center
  • More than 1 in 3 young people have experienced cyberthreats online.-i Safe Foundation
  • Over half of young people do not tell their parents when cyberbullying occurs. -i Safe Foundation

Invite Dr. Laura Dessauer to share with your agency, organization, or school her dynamic presentation:

Online Predators, Cyberbullying, and Sexting: Toto We’re Not in Kansas Anymore! 5 Creative Strategies to Keep Your Child Safe Online.

Do you think your child is too young to be exposed to online violent and sexually explicit material? Statistics suggest your child may be exposed to negative influences of online media at an early age!
This presentation will cover specific creative strategies you can implement in your home to improve your child’s online safety.

To book Laura to speak contact info@thecreativityqueen.com or call (941)540-8498.

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“All Hail the Queen!” What other organizations are saying about speaking events with Dr. Laura Dessauer

“Thank YOU so much for joining us and for sharing your knowledge and energy with us. As I was collecting papers at the end, several  women told me they found you to be a great speaker, they wanted more, and  they’d love to have you back! As I mentioned, you’d come highly recommended and the praise was certainly warranted! Our members left with great tools – not just for the children, but for the parents as well! The quality world exercise really opened my eyes to my children’s perspective and that is a valuable gift you’ve given to my family. Thank you!!” —Chantal Wilford, Leader, Sarasota Chapter of the Holistic Moms Network

“Great workshop! Laura is definitely a wonderful resource for Forty Carrots to use. The message we can give to our parents is that through art, we can connect with our children in many ways. Parents can model how art can be used as a self-soothing tool. It is also another way to “play” with children, which is a message we send already. Instead of thinking about art itself, Laura focuses on how to use the ‘process’ of art to help connect families.”— Parenting Educators at Forty Carrots Family Center

“I just wanted to say all of the moms loved your presentation, “7 creative ways to get control of your kids so they learn how to positively manage their behaviors and feelings, and you stay sane!”. It was very helpful and informative. We really appreciate you sharing the creative parenting tips and tools. I can’t wait to start practicing them with my family. You were truly awesome.” —Heather Tyler, MOMS Club of Manatee

“As you can see from the feedback below on your two conference sessions, your workshops were very well received! In addition, one of the directors at the conference made a special point of telling me how much she enjoyed your class.” -Mary Wolf, M.Ed. Director of Quality, Early Learning Coalition of Sarasota County

About Dr. Laura Dessauer:

Laura Dessauer, Ed.D, ATR-BC is board certified art therapist with a doctorate degree in counseling psychology working with families for 23 + years in over 21 school districts. She is the author of the forthcoming book, I’m Not Crazy I’m A Mom: How to Keep your Sanity While Creatively Raising Confident, Compassionate, Responsible Children. Laura’s work has been included in Parent’s Magazine, eHow Parenting, YourTango, FoxNews, PBS This Emotional Life, Working Mother, Head Drama, Gal Drama, and she blogs for Psychology Today. Laura is recognized as an international presenter, esteemed clinician, author, and her business, the Creativity Queen, LLC, was the winner of the 2007 Small Business of the Year Award (SCORE).

To book Laura to speak contact info@thecreativityqueen.com or call (941)540-8498.


Don’t Let your Child be a Weiner Online: 7 Tips to Manage your Child’s Online Behaviors

June 8th, 2011

Call me a Pollyanna, but I am truly shocked about the recent news of congressman Anthony Weiner’s alleged indecent pictures posted on Twitter. If an adult who is a position of power and influence can act that way what can you expect of your hormonal tween?

It certainly gives parents an opportunity to review their ‘online media rules’ with their children. If you are a family that does not have rules in place, now may be the perfect time to mention your concerns and establish media rules for your household.

Wondering if you need media guidelines in your home? Look at what’s considered a norm in our society. There are media policies at work and at school and if you do not have media boundaries in place at home your child may explore areas on the internet and act in ways that you’d expect them not to. Children naturally love to test boundaries, and they will likely do so if there are no clear expectations or consequences.

Here are 7 tips to help your child manage their online behaviors:

1.Discuss with your spouse or parenting partner what your values are around using the internet and social media. Decide together what media is appropriate for your child’s cognitive and emotional developmental level. Every child matures at a different rate, so be aware of what’s appropriate for your child based upon their developmental maturation, not age. Together come up with your family media rules so your child doesn’t end up going from one parent to the other to get what they want.

2.Decide if you will place parental controls on your child’s computer using software such as NetNanny or CyberSitter. You can find reviews for top 10 parental controls here parental control reviews. Or you can access Norton Online Family, which offers free support and online controls for families.

3. Limit where your child can use the computer if you are uncertain if they can be trusted online. This may mean that they can only use the computer at the kitchen table or in the family room. Again, depending upon your child’s maturity they may be able to use their computer in their bedroom as they show they are responsible and trustworthy.

4. Write down what your media rules are. If they are able to go on Facebook, Myspace, or Twitter sit down with your child and come up with some rules. Include your expectations about lewd words or images, who they can friend, and expectations around sharing personal information and cyberbullying. Be playful and role play a few of the problems they may encounter and ask them what they might do in that situation, such as a friend posting party pictures, swearing friends or someone writing nasty wall comments. Let them know you are there to support them and are open to helping them solve problems when they come up.

5. Become your child’s followers or friends on whatever social media platform they are using. Tell your child this is part of building trust and let them know your expectations. As they mature you may need less parental support and you may decide to give them more freedom as they show they are trustworthy. Let them know that whatever they post they must feel it would be okay to share with their parents.

6. Use media scandals as an opportunity to discuss with your child how they would handle that situation. What can they learn from Paris Hilton and Kim Kardashian’s sex videos or Charlie Sheen’s behavior? Be open to listening to your child’s thoughts before your jump in with your parental advice.
7. Using a computer is not a “right”. Many children feel they are entitled to use the computer as the desire and some will say they are doing homework as they chat with their friends. Using the computer is not a right, and if a child shows that they cannot not be responsible, then pull in your parenting reigns and limit the time on the computer to just homework time and have them do their homework in a place where you can observe their behaviors. Be clear on what the consequences will be if they violate this rule.

You can teach your child to be responsible by creating clear and consistent rules around  online behaviors. As one of the parents I worked with so eloquently said, “When you are responsible then it may be possible”. Use these 7 tips to help your child become clear on what behavior is acceptable online, so they don’t ever become a Weiner!

Need more support to define your online media rules without a huge argument? We can help! Schedule your Complementary Child Support Consultation here>>www.thecreativityqueen.com/schedule