Archive for the ‘Parenting Tips’ Category

The Blossom Method ™– the revolutionary way to communicate with your baby from birth

November 25th, 2013

ARE YOU A PARENT OR PROFESSIONAL?

Join the International Parents & Professionals Community (IPPC). Our monthly Parent & Professional Support Call is Tuesday, November 26th. Topic: “The Blossom Method ™– the revolutionary way to communicate with your baby from birth” an interview with guest expert, Vivien Sabel.

Imagine how much easier life would be if you could talk to your baby and understand his or her emotions, needs and wants. In The Blossom Method™, Vivien Sabel supports you to do just that – through learning about your baby’s non-verbal communications. With this groundbreaking technique, you will learn how to meet your baby’s needs before he or she cries, and how to talk back so that your baby feels understood.

On this call you will learn:

  • How and when Vivien discovered more about infant communication
  • The Blossom Method and the value of this communication tool
  • Specific examples of infant communication and their meanings
  • The value of using the key features of The Blossom Method with all children from toddlers and teens
  • What parents and professionals are saying about The Blossom Method

The Blossom Method™ encourages you to understand and communicate with your baby from day one, leading to an even happier, settled baby and a strong parent–child bond.

This call and audio recording is F-R-E-E for IPPC Members. This exciting international parents and professional community is surprisingly affordable and includes monthly parent & professional support calls, guest faculty calls with parenting and family experts, quarterly Q&A calls, instant access 24/7 to support resources, and a supportive, non-judgmental & downright awesome community of parents & professionals…all for just a few pennies per day. Click here to find out more


Got unhappy kids?

September 23rd, 2013

ARE YOU A PARENT OR PROFESSIONAL?

Join the International Parents & Professionals Community (IPPC). Our monthly Parent & Professional Support Call is Tuesday, September 24th. Topic: “Growing Happy Kids” an interview with guest expert, Maureen Healey.

We all want to raise confident and happier kids today but the question remains how? Maureen Healy, author of Growing Happy Kids, shares how to nurture a deeper sense of confidence and ultimately happiness in children. Come along and learn about the keys to children (and even perhaps your own) lasting happiness.

On this call you will learn:

  • Difference Between Self-Esteem and Confidence
  • How Confidence Connects to Happiness
  • What the 5 Building Blocks of Confidence Are
  • Things to Avoid
  • Keys to Your Kid’s Happiness

Maureen Healy is a popular author, speaker and healer working with parents globally. She writes a popular blog for Psychology Today and PBS along with her book, Growing Happy Kids, which we’ll talk about on the support call. Her next book, The Energetic Keys to Indigo Kids, comes out next month about how to help our most sensitive children thrive.

This call and audio recording is F-R-E-E for IPPC Members. This exciting international parents and professional community is surprisingly affordable and includes monthly parent & professional support calls, guest faculty calls with parenting and family experts, quarterly Q&A calls, instant access 24/7 to support resources, and a supportive, non-judgmental & downright awesome community of parents & professionals…all for just a few pennies per day. Click here to find out more


Feeling awkward in your bathing suit?

July 29th, 2013

Okay, so you’re not alone- you slip on the suit to head to the pool and wonder if anyone will notice you, in a not so good way.

I get it, you are so super busy, and you find yourself grabbing a bite to eat on the go without thinking. Then you’re left standing in the hallway heading out the door wondering if your beach coverup will really cover you up.

Faced with the same dilemma I asked a dear colleague and fellow parenting professional, Susan Epstein, to be interviewed tomorrow, July 30th. She will share with our International Parents & Professionals Community her “6 Secrets to a Healthy Body and Healthy Home”. If you are not a member, it’s not too late to register and get access to the call and recording, just click here

Susan Epstein will be sharing some tips she gleaned from her parents, who are living a healthy active lifestyle in their 90’s. When Susan started to use these secrets in her own life she lost 20 lbs, pretty awesome if you ask me.

So here’s what we are covering on this don’t miss call:

  • Are you a yo-yo dieter?
  • Do you hate to exercise?
  • Are you worried about your health and the health of your family?
  • Do you or someone you know have a weight related illness?
  • Are you confused about what and how much to eat?
  • Are you completely frustrated and ready to give up?

If you answered “yes” to even one of these questions, Susan will share how to turn your struggles around and move toward the healthier and happier life you and your family were meant to live. Susan will teach easy, practical, and realistic tips for busy families. You’ll learn the 6 things you can do to start you and your family on the path to optimal health one step at a time.

Don’t miss this remarkable complimentary call for IPPC members. Click here to find out more

Until we connect again, let your brilliant light SHINE!

Dr. Laura Dessauer,
the “Creativity Queen”
Founder, International Parents & Professionals Community

P.S.- This call and audio recording is F-R-E-E for International Parents and Professional Community Members. Enjoy monthly parent & professional support calls, guest faculty calls with parenting and family experts, quarterly Q&A calls, instant access 24/7 to support resources, and a supportive, non-judgmental & downright awesome community of parents & professionals…all for just a few pennies per day. Click here now for all of the exciting details.


Summertime success, really?

July 22nd, 2013

Okay, I bet I got you thinking…what’s the CQ up to talking about “SUCCESS” and summertime in the same sentence?

Yup, it’s kinda funny to think of summertime as a time when you want to encourage success, but it’s so filled with opportunities to learn, grow, and explore beyond the classroom.

So I ask you dear reader to think about what summertime success would look like for your child. Then ask your child what a successful summer would look like for them? You may even want to get some art supplies and get creative with this.
I imagine there are quite a few differences, and lots of opportunities for learning from each other.

Here’s the beauty of this exercise- both of you have a visual creation of what’s important, and from here you can begin negotiating the differences.

Your kiddo wants more electronics time and you want more reading time, look to find a way you can both get your needs met, and teach the art of compromise.

They want to go a sports camp with their friends, and you want them to join the academic camp, how can you come up with a compromise and create a win:win?

Life is all about negotiating differences, learning to communicate your needs, and how to be flexible when things don’t go your way.

Now that you and your child have an agreement on what a successful summer looks like, be a detective and collect evidence of positive moments.

As you’ve heard me mention before, Dr. Rick Hanson talks about Taking in the Good, and savoring positive moments.

Here are some ideas to savor summertime success:

*Take Instagram pictures of summertime success moments (both your definition and theirs)
*Create a Wordle  (word cloud) with key phrases or words that describe your child’s
summer of success
*Make a collage of words and images depicting their summertime goals
*Put together a scrapbook or Smashbook of summer highlights (need some inspiration
search Pinterest for ideas)
*Make a summer movie and include a highlight reel from key moments of summertime
success
* Get creative and ask your kiddo to come up with ideas to celebrate their successes!

Need help negotiating differences and create a win:win with your child? We hear you! Join us on the upcoming International Parents and Professionals Community Support call “You Can’t Make Me: Effective Boundaries and Follow Through for Motivating Kids! Practical and positive strategies to build cooperation, responsibility, and mutual respect with children” Click here to learn more


You Can’t Make Me: Effective Boundaries and Follow Through for Motivating Kids

June 15th, 2013

Have you ever listened to someone talk and you know with all your heart they are speaking your truth? I felt that way the first time I saw Dr. Jane Bluestein speak when she came to visit FL a few years ago. I was so enamored with her message. It spoke directly to my heart, so much so that I got a bunch of books she wrote, and still use them to this day!

When I reached out to Dr.  and asked her to speak to the International Parents and Professionals Community, I was overjoyed when she said, YES!!

She’ll be speaking Tuesday, June 18th, on the topic of “You Can’t Make Me: Effective Boundaries and Follow Through for Motivating Kids! Practical and positive strategies to build cooperation, responsibility, and mutual respect with children”

Few things are as aggravating or exhausting as power struggles with kids. If you find yourself nagging, arguing or threatening, being ignored by your children (or students) or having your authority challenged, then you don’t want to miss this call. This also works with whiners, feet-draggers and “space cadets”!
Rather than focusing on how to react to oppositional, obnoxious, passive-aggressive, or disrespectful behaviors, we’ll concentrate on how to prevent these behaviors from occurring in the first place.
On this call you’ll learn how to create a win-win authority relationship in which you can generate cooperation without threats or punishments. We’ll explore practical, effective strategies for reducing stress and conflict in the relationship— including setting and maintaining boundaries, following through to build accountability, increasing positivity, building trust and mutual respect, and accommodating kids’ needs for power within limits that won’t make you crazy. We’ll also examine practical and effective alternatives to common patterns and traditions that tend to undermine our authority.
You seriously don’t want to miss this- she’s been a guest expert on CNN, National Public Radio, and The Oprah Winfrey Show and she will be sharing “magic sentences” & “magic questions” to:

  • Create a win-win authority relationships with kids
  • Generate cooperation without threats or punishment
  • Set and maintain effective, positive boundaries
  • Follow through on boundaries
  • Increase positivity as well as your authority
  • Avoid negative, self-defeating parenting behaviors

This call is applicable to kids of all ages, with strategies for educators, counselors, community workers, and other social service providers, as well as all parents, grandparents and other caregivers.
Dr. Bluestein is amazing! You’ll leave this call with practical ideas and word-for word tools to help create a more positive and peace-filled school and home environment!
 Don’t worry if you can’t make it live:  a recording of the call will be added to our library and you can listen at anytime 24/7 (or download it to your phone/ mp3 player and take it on the go) Click here to find out more.

If you are already an IPPC member I can’t wait to connect with you on the call- it’s going to be AWESOME! “See” you there!

Until we connect again, let your brilliant light SHINE!

Dr. Laura Dessauer,
the “Creativity Queen”
Founder, International Parents & Professionals Community

P.S.- This call and audio recording is F-R-E-E for International Parents and Professional Community Members. Enjoy monthly parent & professional support calls, guest faculty calls with parenting and family experts, quarterly Q&A calls, instant access 24/7 to support resources, and a supportive, non-judgmental & downright awesome community of parents & professionals…all for just a few pennies per day. Click here now for all of the exciting details.


Give Yourself a Break!

June 7th, 2013

Mini-breaks are so important. They help us to recharge, reconnect, and recenter. However, there are just so many hours in the day, and it’s easy to fall into the mindset that when there’s free time we must fill it, and yes we all know lots of things to fill it with.

So put down the phone, turn off the computer, step away from the laundry pile…

 

  • Give yourself permission to have a mini-break. Modeling to your children that it is healthy to take a break and chill without having to “plug-in” to electronics is a priceless gift.  Make a public declaration that it’s your time to relax. Tell your parenting partner  they are in charge or ask a friend to babysit. If you don’t have anyone to watch the older kiddos- put on a timer and let them know you are not to be disturbed until the timer goes off, unless it’s an emergency (and be clear what’s an emergency). Have a few new movies on-hand that you’ve collected and stashed away for these moments.
  • Declare a mini-break before your batteries have run out. It’s common to push through the exhaustion and overwhelm and think you can get a few more things done. However, this can lead to a very reactive, cranky behavior, and you may do or say something that is not very nice. You don’t want your child modeling this behavior! Know your triggers, state how you feel, and tell those around you what you need. You’ll be able to help your child identify their triggers and needs by calmly sharing your own.
    Spend your mini-break wisely. You may be temped to catch up on paperwork, get some laundry done, start dinner, or check your emails. Don’t go there. Instead do something (or nothing) that helps you to center and renew yourself. Want to teach your child how to recognize their needs so they avoid a meltdown or tantrum? Model this by creating a list of min-break activities on the refrigerator for each person in the family. Do this with your kids and have them add actives to their list (and decorate it too). When it’s time for you to take a mini-break pick an activity from your list.  Let your family know this is what you’ll be doing and teach your kids to do the same.
  • Create a mini-break retreat space. Go into the bedroom and light a candle and rest with a scented eye pillow, sit outside with a cool drink and a book, go to the bathroom (turn the lights down so you don’t have to look at the bath toys or tub that needs to be scrubbed). Have a ritual that you do, and things on hand to help you quickly renew, such as magazines in a basket, scented candles, or art supplies in a special box.
  • Help your child create a mini-break retreat space too.  I like to teach families and educators how to create a calm-down area. Find a space where a child can chill out and fill it with self-soothing activities. If your space is limited put pillows in a corner or a small tent to create a designated area.

Need more support and ways to help your child? Join us on the upcoming International Parents and Professionals Community Support call “You Can’t Make Me: Effective Boundaries and Follow Through for Motivating Kids! Learn  practical and positive strategies to build cooperation, responsibility, and mutual respect with childrenClick here to learn more


Want a clutter-free calm home?

May 20th, 2013

We’ve all got stuff: grandma’s china you inherited, the hand-print casting of your toddler, the ever expanding piles of toys your child accumulates, the pair of skinny jeans you’re hoping one day fit back into (not to mention the garage filled with your honey’s stuff). Some stuff has emotional ties, some stuff you’d feel guilty letting go of, and some stuff you just seem to collect more and more of.

I don’t know if you’ve ever done this? I’ve spent hours looking through my closets; I’ll start sorting stuff, then quickly get overwhelmed, and close the door. It’s a total waste of time. It’s an energy sucker, and my closets are still full- bummer!

Letting Go of Stuff

So when I heard of Darren Johnson, the author of Letting Go of Stuff, I knew I needed to interview him for the upcoming International Parents and Professionals Community Guest Expert Call, tomorrow, Tuesday May 21st!

If you’re making promises to clean out and let go of stuff you don’t need, end energy-sucking relationships or set self-respecting boundaries, or you need some support in letting go of “OPS” (Other People’s Stuff), don’t miss this call.

We’ll be talking about moving beyond the mental and physical barriers that STUFF presents. Understanding how to better manage stuff will help to create space, emotionally and physiologically, for greater success on a daily basis. Parents, teachers, families, and others will benefit from this discussion about how to let go of stuff.

On this call you’ll:

  • Gain insights into the seven secrets to LETTING GO – for at home and in the office
  • Learn strategies for managing unhealthy relationships at home and at work
  • Develop new perspectives on how to treat others so you can get treated with the respect you deserve
  • Apply techniques for dealing with anger, resentment, and bad experiences so you can let go of the stuff that doesn’t work anymore
  • Have a good time while learning key concepts for improving relationships and simplifying your life

You’ll leave this call with empowering tools to help you let go of what’s not working in your life. We’ll be talking about the emotional stuff, as well as the physical stuff that keeps us from the deep connections and calm clutter-free environments we desire to create. Don’t miss this empowering complimentary call. Click here to find out more
If you are already an IPPC member I can’t wait to connect with you on the call- it’s going to be AWESOME! “See” you there!

Until we connect again, let your brilliant light SHINE!

Dr. Laura Dessauer,
the “Creativity Queen”
Founder, International Parents & Professionals Community

P.S.- This call and audio recording is F-R-E-E for International Parents and Professional Community Members. Enjoy monthly parent & professional support calls, guest faculty calls with parenting and family experts, quarterly Q&A calls, instant access 24/7 to support resources, and a supportive, non-judgmental & downright awesome community of parents & professionals…all for just a few pennies per day. Click here now for all of the exciting details.


Parties, play dates, performances, oh my! 6 tips to help your child navigate a busy schedule without overwhelm, meltdowns, or tantrums

May 13th, 2013

It seems like this time of year there’s a party, play date, or performance almost daily. This can become an overwhelming time of year- especially if your child has a hard time transitioning or is very sensitive to their environment.

Here are 6 tips to help your child navigate this busy social time so there are less meltdowns, tantrums, or shutdowns.

  1. Pick and choose- As a parent make decisions that will be in the best interest of your child. You know if you run from a visit with your parents, then off to a theatre show your child is performing in, then to an after party with the cast members, your child may be “spent”, and that’s often when behaviors deteriorate. Limit the number of activities, and model to your child that saying “no, thank you” is perfectly acceptable.
  2. Prepare- Pick out clothes in advance, plan snacks or meals for the day, decide how long you will attend these events and how you (and your parenting partner) will respond if your child wants to stay longer.
  3. Let your child know the plan up front- Be clear on the plans for the day, expectations, the length of the visit, and if there is a concern about your child’s behavior be clear on what will happen if they become upset or act out (and then follow through on what you said you would do). If they easily become overstimulated create a word or signal that you both can use to remind your child to take a break from the activity they are doing. Reward good behavior with something meaningful and simple, such as letting your child stay longer at an activity or choose the story to read at bedtime.
  4. Don’t forget to eat and drink- I know this is so simple, but how easy it is to forget especially when we are so busy and engaged in an activity. Plan for snacks, meals and water breaks so your child’s blood sugar doesn’t drop or they don’t become dehydrated, which can lead to meltdowns.
  5. Teach your child how to self-soothe and self-regulate- When your child’s behaviors start to become regressive you know they are about to have a meltdown. Step in and help them learn how to self-calm. Head outside and go for a 5-min walk, smell and look at flowers, name the birds, look for bugs. Use your car as a “relaxation station” in -between traveling to different places. Spray calming scents like lavender or chamomile, have a bag of books, crayons and paper, (no mess) modeling clay, and soft snuggly pillows, and turn on some chill tunes. Teach your child how to take restorative mini breaks throughout the day.
  6. Encourage an art break- Use art to help your child calm and reflect on their day. Get creative, pull out some simple art materials and ask your child to make pictures. Here are some ideas to get you started, feel free to improvise: Ask your child to draw pictures of their favorite thing that happened during the day, ask them to make pictures of what the liked the least or anything that was frustrating, upsetting or annoying, ask them to make a picture of what they are feeling, and what that looks like. If there was a difficult situation, ask your child to make a picture of what they could have done differently to handle it.

Yes, it’s a busy time of the year with so many exciting things to do. Help your child manage the transitions with ease with these tips. If you need more support, we’d love to help you. Learn more about our amazing International Parents and Professionals Community and all the resources, and support you can access 24/7 to help your child be the amazingly awesome kid you know they can be!


Bully Be Gone: 9 tips to help your child deal with bullies

April 30th, 2013

If you have a kid or work with kids, then you’ve heard all about bullies. From zero tolerance to no bullying schools, it’s a big topic at school, at home, and in the media. We hear of children being pushed too far and hurting others or themselves because they were bullied.

I believe that “bullies” provide valuable learning opportunities and children with SUPPORT can grow and become resilient from these experiences.

Here are 9 tips on how to help your child learn and grow in positive ways from their experience with bullies:

1. Listen-Your child may feel like they are not being heard or understood. You may not agree with what you child is saying, however by listening to and trying to understand your child you will help them process their feelings, make choices, and learn to problem-solve. Use art making to explore feelings around bullying and allow your child a safe place to process their feelings without judgment.

2. Don’t jump in to rescue (unless it’s a safety issue)- Safety can mean psychological or physical. If you feel that your child safety is at-risk, then intervening is paramount. Otherwise, allow your child to problem-solve and brainstorm possible ways of handling the situation. You can use the art making process to explore choices and options. If you quickly intervene, then your child may begin to feel like they are incapable of making decisions or handling difficult situations (which may create a whole lot of enabling behavior in the future).

3. Let them know you’ve got their back- After exploring their options, if what they try doesn’t work, you can look at other options together. If the situation escalates let them know you’ve got a plan of action.

4. They may be embarrassed, and that’s okay-If the situation escalates don’t allow your chid to go at it alone, no matter what they say. Kids sometimes don’t want you to intervene because they are afraid it will only make things worse or that they will be embarrassed. Again, if it’s a safety issue, or they have tried to change the situation and it has not gotten better, then it’s time for you to step in and contact the teacher or school administration.

5. Watch your child’s behaviors- If you notice your child shutting down or withdrawing, or their grades slipping, it’s an indicator that something is going on. Look for subtle cues that they are having trouble coping and don’t ignore the chronic statements about hating school, find out what’s going on.

6. Sometimes you just got to look at other options- I’ve seen many children who stay in a negative environment without support, and they start to shutdown. All of a sudden they are depressed, anxious, or getting into trouble. These kids have expressed that they can’t handle a situation in so many ways, and they feel like no one is hearing them. Perhaps the environment can’t be fixed, or the administration is unwilling to make changes, or your child’s attempts to assert himself/herself has only create more bullying. It feels like you’ve tried it all, nothing seems to be getting better and it seems to be getting worse. It’s time to explore other options.  Explore what other academic choices, what environment does your child thrive in, how can you empower your child, and how can you address the underlying issues so that it doesn’t become a reoccurring pattern wherever they go.

7. Create opportunities for empowerment-Bullying and bullies trigger fears and inadequacies , help your child learn how to manage their fears and develop assertiveness skills by building competency and mastery. Help them learn how to manage smaller difficulties by introducing your child to developmentally appropriate tasks that challenge them. Explore sports, learn new skills, attend new places or camps, and help your child learn how to overcome challenges with support and encouragement. The art making process is a great way to develop coping skills and build mastery.

8 Build social skills- Some children who are bullied have a difficult time fitting in socially. They may be socially immature, or have a hard time making or keeping friends their age. Again, look for situations where they can develop skills socially and learn how to cope with frustrations, manage transitions, be flexible in a fun and supportive environment.

9. Explore therapy- With so many therapists teaching skills today you’ll likely find someone who can help your child with their feelings and behaviors. Therapy is a great place to try out new skills, learn how to adapt and change, and safely express feelings. Many children who have been bullied carry emotional scars and talk about these painful experiences years later. Provide your child with a safe place to process and move through their feelings so they can make positive changes (and seek out positive relationships).

Children love learning, so tap into their natural curiosity and creativity to help them develop the skills they need to say buh-bye to bullies. Need some more support? Join us on the IPPC Q& A call, May 7th. Get your questions answered LIVE~ Click here to learn more


Is your child bright, but lazy?

April 23rd, 2013

ARE YOU A PARENT OR PROFESSIONAL?

Join the International Parents & Professionals Community (IPPC) monthly Support Call Tuesday, April 23rd. Dr. Laura will be speaking on the topic “Bright, but Lazy? Tools to help children succeed in school when it appears like they don’t care”

It is almost the end of the school year and for many children this is a very stressful time of the year. You may have opened up the grades from your child’s report card this quarter, and you were shocked. Maybe you thought they were doing fine, but found out they are struggling or they have been missing lots of homework. Perhaps you are a professional working with children and families struggling to help their bright child; they’ve tried everything to help and it seems like their child just doesn’t care or they are just “lazy”.

Please do not wait until the end of the year to get your child the help they need! Join us on this support call detailing steps you can take to help your struggling child succeed.

On this call you’ll identify:

  • Indicators that your child or the children you work with are in need of support ASAP
  • Quick action steps you can take to help your child get back on track with their academics
  • Signs that signal the need for more support, and what you can do to ensure that your child receives the support they need
  • Concrete plan of action to help your work with the school and address your concerns
  • Underlying concerns that may be impacting your child’s success and how to create interventions that address these issues
  • Options and alternatives to help your bright child be a motivated and successful life-long learner
  • Plus, you’ll leave with creative art and cognitive behavioral strategies to help children who become easily “stuck” and “overwhelmed”

If you have a child who is struggling with academics or your know of a children who is having a difficult time it is imperative that you join this support call! Click here to find out more