Archive for July, 2013

Feeling awkward in your bathing suit?

July 29th, 2013

Okay, so you’re not alone- you slip on the suit to head to the pool and wonder if anyone will notice you, in a not so good way.

I get it, you are so super busy, and you find yourself grabbing a bite to eat on the go without thinking. Then you’re left standing in the hallway heading out the door wondering if your beach coverup will really cover you up.

Faced with the same dilemma I asked a dear colleague and fellow parenting professional, Susan Epstein, to be interviewed tomorrow, July 30th. She will share with our International Parents & Professionals Community her “6 Secrets to a Healthy Body and Healthy Home”. If you are not a member, it’s not too late to register and get access to the call and recording, just click here

Susan Epstein will be sharing some tips she gleaned from her parents, who are living a healthy active lifestyle in their 90’s. When Susan started to use these secrets in her own life she lost 20 lbs, pretty awesome if you ask me.

So here’s what we are covering on this don’t miss call:

  • Are you a yo-yo dieter?
  • Do you hate to exercise?
  • Are you worried about your health and the health of your family?
  • Do you or someone you know have a weight related illness?
  • Are you confused about what and how much to eat?
  • Are you completely frustrated and ready to give up?

If you answered “yes” to even one of these questions, Susan will share how to turn your struggles around and move toward the healthier and happier life you and your family were meant to live. Susan will teach easy, practical, and realistic tips for busy families. You’ll learn the 6 things you can do to start you and your family on the path to optimal health one step at a time.

Don’t miss this remarkable complimentary call for IPPC members. Click here to find out more

Until we connect again, let your brilliant light SHINE!

Dr. Laura Dessauer,
the “Creativity Queen”
Founder, International Parents & Professionals Community

P.S.- This call and audio recording is F-R-E-E for International Parents and Professional Community Members. Enjoy monthly parent & professional support calls, guest faculty calls with parenting and family experts, quarterly Q&A calls, instant access 24/7 to support resources, and a supportive, non-judgmental & downright awesome community of parents & professionals…all for just a few pennies per day. Click here now for all of the exciting details.


Summertime success, really?

July 22nd, 2013

Okay, I bet I got you thinking…what’s the CQ up to talking about “SUCCESS” and summertime in the same sentence?

Yup, it’s kinda funny to think of summertime as a time when you want to encourage success, but it’s so filled with opportunities to learn, grow, and explore beyond the classroom.

So I ask you dear reader to think about what summertime success would look like for your child. Then ask your child what a successful summer would look like for them? You may even want to get some art supplies and get creative with this.
I imagine there are quite a few differences, and lots of opportunities for learning from each other.

Here’s the beauty of this exercise- both of you have a visual creation of what’s important, and from here you can begin negotiating the differences.

Your kiddo wants more electronics time and you want more reading time, look to find a way you can both get your needs met, and teach the art of compromise.

They want to go a sports camp with their friends, and you want them to join the academic camp, how can you come up with a compromise and create a win:win?

Life is all about negotiating differences, learning to communicate your needs, and how to be flexible when things don’t go your way.

Now that you and your child have an agreement on what a successful summer looks like, be a detective and collect evidence of positive moments.

As you’ve heard me mention before, Dr. Rick Hanson talks about Taking in the Good, and savoring positive moments.

Here are some ideas to savor summertime success:

*Take Instagram pictures of summertime success moments (both your definition and theirs)
*Create a Wordle  (word cloud) with key phrases or words that describe your child’s
summer of success
*Make a collage of words and images depicting their summertime goals
*Put together a scrapbook or Smashbook of summer highlights (need some inspiration
search Pinterest for ideas)
*Make a summer movie and include a highlight reel from key moments of summertime
success
* Get creative and ask your kiddo to come up with ideas to celebrate their successes!

Need help negotiating differences and create a win:win with your child? We hear you! Join us on the upcoming International Parents and Professionals Community Support call “You Can’t Make Me: Effective Boundaries and Follow Through for Motivating Kids! Practical and positive strategies to build cooperation, responsibility, and mutual respect with children” Click here to learn more


Using art to teach boundaries, respect, communication, and cooperation

July 9th, 2013

Last month’s International Parents and Professionals Community Support call was with Dr. Jane Bluestein and we talked about practical and positive strategies to build cooperation, responsibility, and mutual respect with children (if you missed this ‘must listen to call’ you can find out more here https://thecreativityqueen.com/bluestein).

It got me thinking about how important it is to set boundaries and clear expectations with kids. Also, the importance of very specific and concrete consequences (both positive and negative).  I find that the kids who struggle the most are often the ones whose parents flip flop on boundaries (sometimes a NO turns into a YES) or a child’s negative behavior triggers you to lose your cool or frustrates you to the point that you give in.

Summertime means more time with your family, more sibling time together, and more unstructured time. All of that can lead to arguments, annoyances, and frustrations.

You can teach your kiddos lots of great skills using art, such as respecting boundaries, communicating wants, cooperating, and learning consequences.

Here’s a creative playful CQ activity:

Get a large piece of paper and set the rules for playing together. Let your child know how long you’ll be making art and the expectations (such as helping pick-up the materials, asking for help, etc). Explain that you’ll be working together or that they will be working with their siblings. Pick a theme to create, this time of year an underwater theme or at the beach is a fun theme to explore. Tell your child that they can create on one side of the paper their own scene, and you (or their sibling has the other side of the paper) and explain that the middle of the paper is where they can create things together. Be clear that they need to ask before touching another person’s materials or going on the other person’s side. Let them know what the consequences will be ahead of time for good choices and poor choices. If your children are doing this together monitor the process, provide feedback, and explore choices.

Depending upon your child, you can provide basic materials such as markers or crayons, or you can provide sensory materials such as glitter glue, pom-poms, finger paint, or play-dough. Use this experience as a teaching opportunity to explore respecting boundaries, develop communication skills, such as asking for what you need, tolerating frustration, and organizing materials. Recognize positive choices and explore consequences of poor choices.

Every moment is a teaching moment, so help your child develop the skills to understand and respect boundaries, communicate their wants, and learn the consequences of their choices.