Archive for May, 2013

Want a clutter-free calm home?

May 20th, 2013

We’ve all got stuff: grandma’s china you inherited, the hand-print casting of your toddler, the ever expanding piles of toys your child accumulates, the pair of skinny jeans you’re hoping one day fit back into (not to mention the garage filled with your honey’s stuff). Some stuff has emotional ties, some stuff you’d feel guilty letting go of, and some stuff you just seem to collect more and more of.

I don’t know if you’ve ever done this? I’ve spent hours looking through my closets; I’ll start sorting stuff, then quickly get overwhelmed, and close the door. It’s a total waste of time. It’s an energy sucker, and my closets are still full- bummer!

Letting Go of Stuff

So when I heard of Darren Johnson, the author of Letting Go of Stuff, I knew I needed to interview him for the upcoming International Parents and Professionals Community Guest Expert Call, tomorrow, Tuesday May 21st!

If you’re making promises to clean out and let go of stuff you don’t need, end energy-sucking relationships or set self-respecting boundaries, or you need some support in letting go of “OPS” (Other People’s Stuff), don’t miss this call.

We’ll be talking about moving beyond the mental and physical barriers that STUFF presents. Understanding how to better manage stuff will help to create space, emotionally and physiologically, for greater success on a daily basis. Parents, teachers, families, and others will benefit from this discussion about how to let go of stuff.

On this call you’ll:

  • Gain insights into the seven secrets to LETTING GO – for at home and in the office
  • Learn strategies for managing unhealthy relationships at home and at work
  • Develop new perspectives on how to treat others so you can get treated with the respect you deserve
  • Apply techniques for dealing with anger, resentment, and bad experiences so you can let go of the stuff that doesn’t work anymore
  • Have a good time while learning key concepts for improving relationships and simplifying your life

You’ll leave this call with empowering tools to help you let go of what’s not working in your life. We’ll be talking about the emotional stuff, as well as the physical stuff that keeps us from the deep connections and calm clutter-free environments we desire to create. Don’t miss this empowering complimentary call. Click here to find out more
If you are already an IPPC member I can’t wait to connect with you on the call- it’s going to be AWESOME! “See” you there!

Until we connect again, let your brilliant light SHINE!

Dr. Laura Dessauer,
the “Creativity Queen”
Founder, International Parents & Professionals Community

P.S.- This call and audio recording is F-R-E-E for International Parents and Professional Community Members. Enjoy monthly parent & professional support calls, guest faculty calls with parenting and family experts, quarterly Q&A calls, instant access 24/7 to support resources, and a supportive, non-judgmental & downright awesome community of parents & professionals…all for just a few pennies per day. Click here now for all of the exciting details.


Parties, play dates, performances, oh my! 6 tips to help your child navigate a busy schedule without overwhelm, meltdowns, or tantrums

May 13th, 2013

It seems like this time of year there’s a party, play date, or performance almost daily. This can become an overwhelming time of year- especially if your child has a hard time transitioning or is very sensitive to their environment.

Here are 6 tips to help your child navigate this busy social time so there are less meltdowns, tantrums, or shutdowns.

  1. Pick and choose- As a parent make decisions that will be in the best interest of your child. You know if you run from a visit with your parents, then off to a theatre show your child is performing in, then to an after party with the cast members, your child may be “spent”, and that’s often when behaviors deteriorate. Limit the number of activities, and model to your child that saying “no, thank you” is perfectly acceptable.
  2. Prepare- Pick out clothes in advance, plan snacks or meals for the day, decide how long you will attend these events and how you (and your parenting partner) will respond if your child wants to stay longer.
  3. Let your child know the plan up front- Be clear on the plans for the day, expectations, the length of the visit, and if there is a concern about your child’s behavior be clear on what will happen if they become upset or act out (and then follow through on what you said you would do). If they easily become overstimulated create a word or signal that you both can use to remind your child to take a break from the activity they are doing. Reward good behavior with something meaningful and simple, such as letting your child stay longer at an activity or choose the story to read at bedtime.
  4. Don’t forget to eat and drink- I know this is so simple, but how easy it is to forget especially when we are so busy and engaged in an activity. Plan for snacks, meals and water breaks so your child’s blood sugar doesn’t drop or they don’t become dehydrated, which can lead to meltdowns.
  5. Teach your child how to self-soothe and self-regulate- When your child’s behaviors start to become regressive you know they are about to have a meltdown. Step in and help them learn how to self-calm. Head outside and go for a 5-min walk, smell and look at flowers, name the birds, look for bugs. Use your car as a “relaxation station” in -between traveling to different places. Spray calming scents like lavender or chamomile, have a bag of books, crayons and paper, (no mess) modeling clay, and soft snuggly pillows, and turn on some chill tunes. Teach your child how to take restorative mini breaks throughout the day.
  6. Encourage an art break- Use art to help your child calm and reflect on their day. Get creative, pull out some simple art materials and ask your child to make pictures. Here are some ideas to get you started, feel free to improvise: Ask your child to draw pictures of their favorite thing that happened during the day, ask them to make pictures of what the liked the least or anything that was frustrating, upsetting or annoying, ask them to make a picture of what they are feeling, and what that looks like. If there was a difficult situation, ask your child to make a picture of what they could have done differently to handle it.

Yes, it’s a busy time of the year with so many exciting things to do. Help your child manage the transitions with ease with these tips. If you need more support, we’d love to help you. Learn more about our amazing International Parents and Professionals Community and all the resources, and support you can access 24/7 to help your child be the amazingly awesome kid you know they can be!